Going through a break up is a horrible emotional experience. If you have ever heard the song \”Need You Now\” by Lady Antebellum, if you haven\’t I suggest giving it a listen, it\’s a fantastic song. In the song the characters are going through all the pain of a break up and making a lot of mistakes.

Here\’s a line from the song: \”It\’s a quarter after one, I\’m all alone and I need you now. Said I wouldn\’t call but I lost all control and I need you now.\” Rule number one, Stop The Desperate Dialing!

Here is another line: \”It\’s a quarter after one, I\’m a little drunk and I need you now.\” Drunk dialing is even worse. The other mistake that is often made is texting the ex, and texting and more texting. You become what is called a Text Terrorist. That will not work either.

What do you do if you want to get your ex back?

First ask yourself a very personal question, and be open minded about it. Do I really want him or her back? Make sure there is a real and true love there, and that you are not just reacting to the situation.

So did you answer: Yes I want my ex back! If so there is a process for you to follow.

Make SUre You Do Not Do What Is Expected

What ever you do, do not be predictable. You want to keep the ex wondering and make them earn their way back into your good graces.

What can you do to keep from doing what is expected? Put an end to those daily habits. Chances are doing the same ol\’ same ol\’ is what got you here in the first place. It\’s time to add something fresh and exciting to your routine.

Make Sure You Have Relationship Goals

Even if you are separated goals can still be set. When you are trying to get your ex back, the goals are a vital part of the process. Goals should be set for different degrees of closeness and affection between the two of you and then achieving those goals is key.

Here is a list of goals you will want to consider: reaching emotional milestones, making physical changes and being able to control your temper to start with. It will be up to you to choose the type of goals that pertain to your relationship.

Take Responsibility and Hold Yourself Accountable For Successes and Failures

Accountability, lately seems to be in short supply. Hold yourself accountable for failing to meet goals. As well as rewarding yourself when goals have been triumphantly met.

Reward and punishment are great motivators. Use them well. Some rewards you might consider are new hair styles, new video games, or even a night on the town with friends. Be sure that you\’re doing things to encourage an active lifestyle whenever possible. You don\’t want to exacerbate existing problems by creating potential health problems along the way.

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